tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post8560566215656851365..comments2023-10-17T05:01:42.650-04:00Comments on Abandoning Eden: Oh man, should I apply for this job???Abandoning Edenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12696116071749613265noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-26505322272480233002008-07-21T12:14:00.000-04:002008-07-21T12:14:00.000-04:00I am facing the same conundrum now!!(am in the sci...I am facing the same conundrum now!!<BR/><BR/>(am in the sciences, so we normally only start dissertating about a month before the defense)<BR/><BR/>Do I (on the chance that everything will work and I graduate July '09) start asking advisor to get me out? Is it even prudent to let advisor know that I am plotting my escape route?<BR/><BR/>You have this anonymous grad student's empathy.rivkayaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06509357690398313014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-88898902565587282862008-07-18T16:22:00.000-04:002008-07-18T16:22:00.000-04:00Dear AE,Wrong thread but I really wanted you to re...Dear AE,<BR/><BR/>Wrong thread but I really wanted you to read this.<BR/><BR/>I'd like you ask yourself a simple question. When you parents die, are you going to sit Shiva?<BR/><BR/>I've watched people go through this before and I plead that allow me to advise you that you never ever get over the guilt of not speaking to your parents. Your lifes choices are your own, but I urge you to learn from the mistakes of others. <BR/><BR/>You are young and in love and entitled to it but over time, the mistakes that one makes gnaw at the back of their minds. I urge you to find folks that have had the same experience as you <B>and regret it</B> to get the other side of the story. <BR/><BR/>This way you will have as many views as possible as you make these very important decisions. <BR/><BR/>Best of luck,<BR/><BR/>JDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-50611267809199810002008-07-18T15:32:00.000-04:002008-07-18T15:32:00.000-04:00BTW, looks like you're on DovBear's blog now too!h...BTW, looks like you're on DovBear's blog now too!<BR/><BR/>http://dovbear.blogspot.com/2008/07/frum-satire-asks-interesting-question.htmlDavid Staumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04092344925121412070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-92028805044601689302008-07-18T15:28:00.000-04:002008-07-18T15:28:00.000-04:00I'm going to go in the opposite direction and reco...I'm going to go in the opposite direction and recommend not applying. Right now, you're happy. You're in a fairly new relationship and you're planning to get married. You're enjoying your life. Why put that pressure on yourself? It's not like you're stuck, career-wise. You're still going for your PhD and you'll get it in the next few years. And you're still only in your mid-20's. Why rush for something that may or may not be your dream job? Sometimes something looks like a dream job from the outside and then it turns out to be crap. Don't turn your life inside-out with stress for the next year just because a job description looks good.<BR/><BR/>Let's put it this way. Suppose you had never seen that job description - you would have continued on with your current fulfilling life with plans to get a decent job and get on the tenure track afterwards. Nothing would have been missing. And you'll have other job offers after you graduate.<BR/><BR/>Why not keep on doing what you're doing and not take any rash leaps? I've known way too many people who did and later regretted it.David Staumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04092344925121412070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-70752891622835310932008-07-18T12:12:00.000-04:002008-07-18T12:12:00.000-04:00One state, oh well.I was hoping for the University...One state, oh well.<BR/><BR/>I was hoping for the University of Washington...Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04391023891253673160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-42510942215179943272008-07-18T10:26:00.000-04:002008-07-18T10:26:00.000-04:00it's not berkeley..But you're only off by one stat...it's not berkeley..But you're only off by one state :)<BR/><BR/>Berkeley is not my dream job for 2 reasons- 1. cost of living in the SF/bay area is insane 2. Berkeley is one of the top 3 sociology programs, and so carries insane pressure for it's faculty to be some of the top most famous researchers in the country. Not that I don't want to be one of the top most famous researchers in the country, but I don't want my chances of tenure to depend on it...I want to be able to take a day off once in a while :)Abandoning Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12696116071749613265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-38082861498145305632008-07-18T02:23:00.000-04:002008-07-18T02:23:00.000-04:00If it's your dream job, apply!If it's your dream job, apply!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16047208374122947004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-27768450001566272442008-07-18T00:42:00.000-04:002008-07-18T00:42:00.000-04:00Stop being so coy, it's gotta be Berkeley!Stop being so coy, it's gotta be Berkeley!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-58812148380899008782008-07-17T21:02:00.000-04:002008-07-17T21:02:00.000-04:00Really. You have no choice. You have to do it. Yay...Really. You have no choice. You have to do it. <BR/>Yay!Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-39550706861275129792008-07-17T19:36:00.000-04:002008-07-17T19:36:00.000-04:00Atta girl.Atta girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-22757099700817329832008-07-17T17:44:00.000-04:002008-07-17T17:44:00.000-04:00I worked like 8 hours today! I'd hardly call that ...I worked like 8 hours today! I'd hardly call that procrastination :)<BR/><BR/>But maybe it is insecurity that is making me hesitate...I mean, it's hard to imagine writing a dissertation in a year. But I can totally do it! <BR/><BR/>Ok i'm doing it! This weekend I'm going to start working on my teaching philosophy and depending on how that goes, also my cover letter!Abandoning Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12696116071749613265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-27224713093574255882008-07-17T17:20:00.000-04:002008-07-17T17:20:00.000-04:00Apply!The worst that happens is you have a busy ye...Apply!<BR/><BR/>The worst that happens is you have a busy year, and get your Doctorate early.<BR/><BR/>The best that happens is you get your dream job.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04391023891253673160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8552682727548828725.post-68936495763228798432008-07-17T17:08:00.000-04:002008-07-17T17:08:00.000-04:00So why are you wasting time here blogging, get wri...So why are you wasting time here blogging, get writing and get on with your life! Can your procrastination and indecision be a symptom of insecurity?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com