Right before Rosh Hashana, two days after my brother's wedding, my dad emailed and was like "When is a good time to call?" I just never responded. He sent me an article link a week later, didn't respond. Today he sent me an email saying "Happy yom kippur" and in the email it just said "I will call you this afternoon."
So I went and took the nuclear option and this is what I responded. At first I considered just letting him call and telling him off on the phone (letting him call and just pretending everything is cool is not an option). But I know I would end up flustered and crying on the phone or something, so I felt like on print I could say what I really meant. It was mean, but whatever. So was not coming to my brother's wedding.
Do not call me this afternoon. I am too angry to talk to you right now. I spent all of D's wedding explaining to his wife and his mother in law and his friends why my parents weren't there. It was extremely painful and hurtful. It takes a lot of chutzpah to think I would welcome a call about your religious holiday while my brother is still on his honeymoon for the wedding you skipped because of your religion. I do not want to talk to you about yom kippur. I do not celebrate yom kippur. I think your religion is wrong and has done nothing but hurt our family. I do not want to hear about religion from you ever again. I'm not sure when I will be not angry enough to talk to you again, but it is not yet.