Thursday, September 17, 2009

My dad just called...

For the first time since April. Yesterday he sent me an e-card that said "Dear Abandoning Eden and B, Happy New year!" and "ps when would be a good time to call."

I was happy to see he actually typed out B's name in the happy new years card thereby acknowledging his existence. And that he included B in a card to me, thereby (in my view) acknowledging that B is part of my family.

So he called today and we talked for about half an hour. I told him about my awesome honeymoon, updated him on a bunch of stuff in life, he updated me on my grandfather (still senile) and on his Shul (moved to a bigger building) and we chatted for a bit. Towards the end he was all "I haven't called you before cause I was afraid you'd be angry, but you sound normal" and I was all "well I was pretty angry at you right after I got married, but now I don't really care" and "You know I can't come visit as long as you refuse to meet B, but you can call me sometimes if you want" and he was all "Well I'll speak with you again soon."

Also he said he's not stepping into my relationship with my Mom, and that "me and her will have to work that out." So yeah, for now, back to talking to dad I guess, but I don't exactly feel like working out things with my mom, since I can't imagine how that could go down...what am I going to do, apologize for getting married? Beg her to talk to me again? Um, no.

Meanwhile, earlier this week B burnt 3 of his fingers when he was pouring hot bacon grease into a jar (for those of you who don't eat bacon- you can't pour bacon grease down the sink cause it will clog the sink, so we pour it in jars and then throw out the jar when it gets full). You can see pictures of his hideous burns over at his blog (warning: they are seriously hideous). I can confirm his reports of pacing up and down and crying...it was really bad, and now he has blisters (aka second degree burns) on 3 of his fingers. But awesomely, I just added him to my health insurance about 3 weeks ago, so we were able to go to the doctor the next morning when one of the burns turned into what the nurse later said was "the biggest blister she had ever seen." They gave him some fancy burn cream and fancy non-stick gauze that's specifically for burns, and B went back this morning for a follow up appointment to make sure it is healing right. Thank jebus for health insurance, cause a month ago he would have toughed it out with regular sticky gauze, neosporin and bandaids.

10 comments:

  1. Interesting blog. I hope that burn heals properly!

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  2. Yeah, me too. I also hope your parents decide to meet us BEFORE we have a kid, that way it's not awkward when they're all like "Okay, I guess this is serious now."

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  3. That sounds like progress, and a lot like love as well.

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  4. Very good news that you talked to your dad. Ugly news about B's fingers. Bet he doesn't do that again.

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  5. Yeah he's already sworn off all cooking. (although we'll see how long that lasts). :) I'm glad i got him insured so he was able to visit the doctor!

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  6. I'm glad your dad is taking steps- albeit baby steps. And I know those burns must have hurt like hell. Burns are the worst.
    Hope he heals soon.

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  7. silver sulvadine is miracle stuff!

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  8. Good to hear things have moved on to have some degree of communication mentioning B. Sounds like definite progress on that front.

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  9. I hope the burns heal soon.

    Can I just say though? Bacon grease is like the yummiest thing in the whole entire world. Don't throw out the jar!

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  10. yeah, your dad being realistic and staying out of xyz between you and your mom. I'm glad he's making an effort to have some sort of relationship with you that isn't rooted in delusion, denial or fantasy.

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