Friday, January 29, 2010

The shocking reply- will B finally meet my parents??

From my dad:

I will note DATE on the calendar. We would be very proud to attend. This is a big deal.


Immediate thoughts: He said nothing about B, but B will definitely be there, as I said in my email.

He said "WE": does that mean my mom too? I sent the invitation to him, figuring he would be willing to come and meet B more so than my mother would. Maybe "we" means my dad and my brother? I doubt he has discussed this with my mom yet. It's now been over a year since she sent me that letter saying she couldn't have a relationship with me if I married B, and since then the only time we have spoken was when I ran into her briefly at my cousin's wedding when she was polite to me and talked to me for a whole 2 minutes during the entire wedding.

Trying not to get too excited about this...in a weird coincidence, my graduation date is also my one year wedding anniversary, so that means there is a distinct possibility that on the same day I get my PhD and celebrate my one year anniversary with B, B might meet one or both of my parents. Nice!!!

18 comments:

  1. Very nice!

    >in a weird coincidence

    No such thing as coincidence. It's from Hashem ;)

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  2. well, or, I got married halfway through May, which is when my school always has graduation. :) Actually I think graduation was the same day as my wedding last year too...

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  3. He's going to bring your younger brother to kill me, so the rabbinical prophecy will be fulfilled. Everything is a Jewish plot!

    Don't forget, you told me I could wear jeans...

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  4. Very happy for you and B...

    I think it might have helped that you said you may be moving far away. Whereas before they could procrastinate this, now there's more of a sense of urgency.

    I hope it goes well, and best wishes.

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  5. I really hope this plays out. It's way past time.

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  6. How exciting!!! I hope it works out.

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  7. I am praying that this all works out!! Good luck!! and i do believe there is no such thing as coincidences as well.

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  8. Hey AE: Crossing my fingers for you :P

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  9. lol @ ginx's plot comment. too funny.

    If nothing else, a "thank you for being good to my daughter" type of politeness is in order.

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  10. He doesn't know I'm treating AE well. For all he knows, I could be force feeding her bacon...

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  11. I hope this works out. Tell B not to wear jeans ;-)

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  12. As someone who has been happily intermarried (and miscenginatin' no less) for twenty years let me give you a couple things to remember.

    1) Your parents are your past.
    2) B is your future.
    3) Real parental love is unconditional. If it is withheld because of whom you love it is extortion.
    4) Most parents come around in time. If they do, be gracious and don't remind them that they were idiots.

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  13. I should be able to wear jeans. If I am going to die, I should at least be comfortable.

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  14. AE -

    "Trying not to get too excited about this"

    I hate to be the pessimist who has no faith in your parents ability to open their minds past their own religious intolerance, but I would say (with love) don't get your hopes up.

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  15. Your "job" is to open doors. Their job is to walk through the door.

    I hope they take this opportunity. It will be good for all five of you.

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  16. Wow, very exciting. I hope this all works out.

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  17. lol @ forcing ae to do anything. (but you have a point; and so does Todd [point #3])

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  18. Mmm force-fed bacon....sacrilicious :)

    Here's hoping things with your parents go well....or at least that they don't go horribly, disturbingly wrong.

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