Well first I told him (my dad) we were planning on getting married. then he started talking about how I should keep judaism for the culture, and even resorted to the fish and the birds and where would the kids live (and I was like "seriously? you're using a fiddler on the roof argument?"). Anyways, I was going to have him drop me off at work, but then my lazyness overcame and I told him to give me a ride back to my apartment, knowing full well that B would be home already. And when he dropped me off and saw B's car parked in front (it's a prius with midwest plates, both of which my dad knew he had), he was like "Is that B's car? Is he living with you?" and I was like "maybe....ok yes, we're living together, now you know all my secrets." And then we just said our goodbyes.
We also had a pretty good talk, where I pointed out that I wasn't going to change my mind about B, that we're planning on getting married, so that the only thing that makes a difference at this point is how they decide to react. And that what kind of relationship did he think me and and my parents are going to have after we get married...that I would come to visit, and not bring my husband with me? And that he would be able to hang out with my kids without ever meeting with my husband? He tried to convince me that B should convert to judaism (even reform judaism at this point!)
Anyways, the way I told him, like literally as I was getting out of the car, was kind of shitty of me I think. We didn't have a chance to actually talk about it (advantage me) and he didn't have time to react, and now is probably making the 2 hour drive home all pissed off and stressed out. I don't feel great about that. But I don't think I could have told him when I knew I would have to spend the whole 30 minute car ride home with him awkwardly. After I told him he was like "ok".. and invited me to a memorial day bbq at my parent's place. I asked again if he wanted to meet B, and he said no. But that's something, right?