Well, my dad mentioned something about B converting to reform Judaism last week, and the idea has taken hold a bit. I talked with B about it, and he says that while he really doesn't want to, he would do it if it made me happy/helped to repair my relationship with my parents.
I'm more hesitant than him. For several reasons
1) as S(b) mentioned in a comment below this; where does it end? Does it end with him converting, or will we need to have a rabbi marry us, orthodox conversion, bris's for our kids, etc. Would my parents insist on having a big wedding with my family invited? I doubt they would, cause a reform conversion won't be enough for my extended family, but I really don't even want the possibility of that.
2) I'm uncertain as to whether I want back into the Jewish community. I know I wouldn't be back in full force, but this would open up some doors that I'm not sure I want opened up.
3) I've been looking up some reform conversion stuff, and while there's this whole myth among orthodox people that reform conversions are bullshit, from what I've seen they really arn't. The info I've been able to find is that B would have to attend an 18 week class on judaism, celebrate holidays for a year, go to synagogue twice a week for a year, and meet with a rabbi regularly. That seems a bit much to ask him, especially given he's not all excited about this in the first place. And I couldn't in good conscious send him off to a jew 101 class without going to the class with him...and do I want to sit through a judaism class for 4 and a half months? no. So why would I make him do something that I would never want to do myself? That seems very unfair.
4) there's also the rampant atheism on his part. Would he need to suppress that during classes/meetings with rabbis? I can't imagine that would be easy for him. If his atheistic tendencies come out in class (as they are bound to do), would that mean a rabbi would refuse to convert him?
5) While I no longer believe in the orthodox jewish traditions, it seems kinda shadey to me to have him convert for me, and basically lie to a rabbi for a year about his true beliefs.
6) if he didn't lie, and told the rabbi that he was converting for me, would a rabbi agree to convert him?
7) In sum, this seems like a lot of effort just to get back on my parent's good side. And I'm not even sure if I want to be on their good side. Or that it would work to put me on their good side, despite what my dad casually mentioned.