So this is really a topic for my ex-Jew blog, but I haven't been writing about my PCOS/infertility stuff there so far, so it's going to have to go here instead for now. As an aside, I also haven't written a single blog entry on my jew blog since getting diagnosed, and I think it's because if I can't talk about this, I have nothing to say, but I'm not ready to be public with this stuff. But maybe I really should be. I just don't want judgmental douches being like "god is punishing you for being an atheist."
Anyway I told my parents about this stuff a month or
two ago and earlier this week when I talked to my dad (for the annual
rosh hashana phone call I get) he asked how stuff was going and I told
him that the clomid isn't working (which so far it hasn't - now been 49
days since I last got my period and I haven't ovulated yet) but I lost 20 pounds, etc. Anyway
today I get this pile of bullshit from him:
"Hi Abandoning Eden,,
How are you doing?
was thinking of you at Rosh Hashanah. They gave me an aliyah to the
Torah at shul and I had them make a "Mishebayrach" prayer for you.
[EDITOR NOTE: THIS MEANS HE HAD THEM SAY A PRAYER IN MY HONOR]
assistant rabbi pointed out that the Torah and Haftorah focused on
women who had trouble conceiving. The Torah portion related the story of
Sarah while the Haftorah from the first chapter in Samuel discussed the
story of Hannah and how she had her fertility problems as well. The
rabbi pointed out that the lesson we were supposed to glean is that
prayer was able to change the outcome for these two women, (they were
able to conceive/give birth to famous, healthy children) and that we
should take prayer more seriously.
Since these are the days when
we Jews take prayer more seriously I thought it wouldn't hurt to pray.
It could only help. Maybe you can still find a prayer group on or near
campus that has services for Yom Kippur and sneak in there for a few
minutes of prayer and reflection. You never know...
Wishing you guys all the best...
Like, I know he is just trying to be helpful, but dear lord does my
father NOT KNOW ME AT ALL. This advice is laughable. I'm not sure if
this is him trying to sneakily get me to pray on yom kippur instead of
the plans I already have- to teach 5 hours of classes and go to 3 hours
of meetings. Or what. But...like...srsly...OMG. I'm not even writing back, cause there's nothing I can say that won't be snarky, and I know he is just trying to help in his completely backwards non-helpful way. That or he is taking advantage of my issues to try to kiruv me. Yeah, I think not responding would be best.