Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Email I actually sent my dad:

Well if you change your mind, we would be happy to have you there. We have settled on a date; May 17th 2009, which is the Sunday after lag ba'omer. The wedding will be held in _____ _______ State Park, Picnic area #17, at around 2pm (we haven't decided on an exact time yet). I've attached some pictures of the picnic pavillion, and this arch thing that we will probably decorate with flowers and have the ceremony by. Our friend J will be officiating, and food will be pot-luck style, so you can bring kosher food if you want.

~Abandoning Eden

13 comments:

  1. Perfect! The ball is in their court. If they don't come, then you haven't cut off the relationship and you can maintain it at whatever level you want, without any guilt at all (well, they may feel guilty, but that is not your problem).

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  2. So, will B's vort be on behar-bechukotai (day before), or on bamidbar (shabbos after)? :lol: I notice the weekend before is mother's day -- perhaps your in-laws will be in town for a week beforehand?

    If that's awesometown weekend (the weekend before your wedding), perhaps he will get hit in the head with some candy. Beware of dirty hippie bridal showers and shabbos brownies.

    Will Mr. Foo be the flower child? :)

    I'm just having fun. Very happy for you.

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  3. how can you expect your orthodox rabbi father attend a wedding in middle of sfirah?

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  4. You left the door wide open, though I would be surprised if they show. Maybe they'll come around for your son's brit or daughter's naming.

    BTW, in scanning your posts, you make scant reference to your Mom and her position/opinion on any of this. Have you spoken to her directly or does Abba try to manage her too?

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  5. Curious question. The arch that you would like to decorate, is that a symbolic chupah?

    BTW, the last post was mine (about leaving the door open ...), sorry I forgot to log in.

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  6. how can you expect your orthodox rabbi father attend a wedding in middle of sfirah?

    It's after Lag BaOmer. She made a point of doing that so they could come if they wanted to.

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  7. my relationship with my mom is a whole other blog post :) But yeah, most contact about B has been through my dad, cause my mom absolutely refuses to talk about it.


    The arch...i don't think so...I actually would be cool with just getting married next to a tree or something, but B was like "We can decorate this arch thing!"

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  8. Beautiful! I'm super proud of you.

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  9. Wait I'm officiating???? AWSOME

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  10. no not you joodah. Although we found out that internet marriages are illegal in this state...so not that friend J either.

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